Many parents find that one of the most painful parts of finalizing their divorce is figuring out how to schedule time with their children. You likely recognize any parenting plan will take some time to adjust to. Yet, a child should not miss out on a meaningful relationship with one of their parents just because a couple no longer wishes to remain married.
Despite how hard you and your ex work to establish an agreeable schedule, at some point, specific circumstances may merit a modification of the terms created when you dissolved your marriage.
Potential reasons for a child custody modification
If you and your former spouse have an amicable co-parenting relationship, you may be able to allow flexibility to do what is best for your children. In other cases, to change an existing order, a court may agree to modify your parenting plan due to:
- Child endangerment
- Death of their other parent
A judge may also modify your parenting time agreement based on a lack of adherence to your current court-ordered plan.
Prepare for transitions between homes
No matter what your parenting plan is, your children will feel secure when they can rely on you for consistency. Regardless of whether you maintain your current arrangement, you should work toward a smooth transition between homes.
- Help your children pack in advance to minimize the stress of forgetting things when they stay elsewhere
- Provide reminders about when thy will go to their other parent’s home
- Drop your children off with your ex to reduce feelings of being taken from their other parent
Your arrangement must meet the unique needs of your family, and it is common for schedules to adapt over time.
Depending on your situation, it may be possible to file for a modification. Just remember to keep your children’s best interests at heart regardless of who they are with, and when.